The girl with the stank breath...
Mid-hookup, this guy just stops and goes, “Yeah, I think I’m done, your breath stinks.” I was mortified. Like crawl-into-the-earth-and-disappear mortified. I left immediately, didn’t say a word, just dipped.
Reinventing Yourself
Life rarely moves in a straight line, and sometimes the most powerful step forward is starting over. In this section, Uncle Gary answers reader questions about personal reinvention, changing careers, redefining identity, and finding new purpose at any stage of life.
How do I change my image without losing myself?
How do I change my image without losing myself?
I’m 38, single, and I’ve built a life that looks pretty good on paper...
I never really wanted the white-picket-fence life, but now I’m wondering if I skipped too many chapters.
What do most people misunderstand about getting older?
Most young people think that getting older is a decline. It isn’t. It’s a refinement.
We’re sold a narrative that aging means becoming less relevant, less desirable, less capable. In reality, what diminishes is tolerance for nonsense, for misaligned relationships, for chasing approval.
I'm recently out of a twelve-year relationship.
I'm recently out of a twelve-year relationship. I'm a fifty-five-year-old gay man, and I don't know where to start. I used to have a nice body. I think I'm still good-looking, but when I go out with friends, I never meet anyone. Everybody is so young.
I'm 23, still living at home
Dear Uncle Gary,
I'm 23, still living at home and going to school, taking a full load and working part-time. Is it selfish to want space from my own family?
- Leave Me Alone
Dear Leave Me Alone,
You’re not selfish. You’re human.
You’re juggling
If nothing changes today, where will you be in ten years?
The words that follow are meant to be a wake-up call. You can either read them and be motivated to act, or you can scroll on and spend the next decade repeating the same year, over and over again.