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His girlfriend was under the covers, seemingly naked, and definitely either asleep or passed out. I hesitated, but the smell in the room confirmed what had been going on.
My adult child just came out as trans. I want to be supportive, but I’m terrified of saying the wrong thing. Where do I start?
My stepmom keeps introducing my husband as my “friend.” Not once, not twice, every time. We’ve been married for over two years, and it’s not like she doesn’t know. She was at the wedding. She’s met his family. She’s seen the ring.
I’m trying to stay professional, but this feels like a sinking ship. Do I stick it out and finish the tour, or cut my losses before the wigs start crawling away?
Mid-hookup, this guy just stops and goes, “Yeah, I think I’m done, your breath stinks.” I was mortified. Like crawl-into-the-earth-and-disappear mortified. I left immediately, didn’t say a word, just dipped.
After seven years of monogamous bliss, my partner Mike, two years older, two inches taller, and apparently two egos too many, decided it was time to “open things up.” Not emotionally. Sexually. To other men.
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