Relationships
"Well, Steve was so kind to me when my child died." I immediately lose my mind! Uncle Gary, I did not argue about Steve's perceived kindness. I let it go, but it really bothers me that people would think him a good guy.
Relationships
I’m five months postpartum with our second child, and I’ve been carrying around about 40 extra pounds from the pregnancy.
About Uncle Gary
AskUncleGary.com, an independent publication launched in 2025 by Gary Domasin, an advice columnist and contributing writer to SoCalMag.com, educator, and supportive uncle you wish you had.
Relationships
I got into a bit of a blowout with my mother-in-law after I asked my husband to run to the store and grab me some tampons last night. Personally, I didn’t think it was a big deal, and neither did he.
Reinventing Yourself
I never really wanted the white-picket-fence life, but now I’m wondering if I skipped too many chapters.
Mindset
My fiancé is super particular about cleanliness; he showers daily, sometimes even twice. Meanwhile, I tend to shower every other day and wash my hair every 3–4 days.
My Viewpoint
Most young people think that getting older is a decline. It isn’t. It’s a refinement. We’re sold a narrative that aging means becoming less relevant, less desirable, less capable. In reality, what diminishes is tolerance for nonsense, for misaligned relationships, for chasing approval.
"Well, Steve was so kind to me when my child died." I immediately lose my mind! Uncle Gary, I did not argue about Steve's perceived kindness. I let it go, but it really bothers me that people would think him a good guy.
I’m five months postpartum with our second child, and I’ve been carrying around about 40 extra pounds from the pregnancy.
AskUncleGary.com, an independent publication launched in 2025 by Gary Domasin, an advice columnist and contributing writer to SoCalMag.com, educator, and supportive uncle you wish you had.
I got into a bit of a blowout with my mother-in-law after I asked my husband to run to the store and grab me some tampons last night. Personally, I didn’t think it was a big deal, and neither did he.
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