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Reinventing Yourself
Mid-hookup, this guy just stops and goes, “Yeah, I think I’m done, your breath stinks.” I was mortified. Like crawl-into-the-earth-and-disappear mortified. I left immediately, didn’t say a word, just dipped.
Home
After seven years of monogamous bliss, my partner Mike, two years older, two inches taller, and apparently two egos too many, decided it was time to “open things up.” Not emotionally. Sexually. To other men.
Relationships
Meanwhile, my wife started going out three to five nights a week, coming home drunk more often than not. While I was away for two weeks on a work assignment, my kids were texting me almost nightly that Mom wasn’t home.
Reinventing Yourself
How do I change my image without losing myself?
Relationships
I (25F) love my boyfriend (27M). We recently talked about exploring our sexuality, including swinging or threesomes, and admitted we’re both bi-curious. I told him I’d support him if he wanted to explore, as long as it was safe and honest.
Mindset
How do I say no to friends trying to sell me things?
Home
I’m 21, and I’ve actually known him for years; she even tried to set me up with him last summer.
Mid-hookup, this guy just stops and goes, “Yeah, I think I’m done, your breath stinks.” I was mortified. Like crawl-into-the-earth-and-disappear mortified. I left immediately, didn’t say a word, just dipped.
After seven years of monogamous bliss, my partner Mike, two years older, two inches taller, and apparently two egos too many, decided it was time to “open things up.” Not emotionally. Sexually. To other men.
Meanwhile, my wife started going out three to five nights a week, coming home drunk more often than not. While I was away for two weeks on a work assignment, my kids were texting me almost nightly that Mom wasn’t home.
How do I change my image without losing myself?
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