How do I know if my goals are realistic?

Uncle Gary,

How do I know if my goals are realistic?

- Dreamer in Duluth

Dear Dreamer in Duluth,

If they scare you but don’t paralyze you, they’re perfect. The right goal should make your stomach flip a little. It should whisper, “This might be too big,” while your gut replies, “Let’s try anyway.” If you’re frozen, it’s too much. If you’re bored, it’s too little. But if you’re nervous and moving forward, that’s the sweet spot.

Regards, Uncle Gary

Gary Domasin is a contributing writer for SoCalMag.com, where AskUncleGary.com offers clarity without clichés. He has also been an adjunct faculty member at USC’s School of Dramatic Arts since 2016.  Thank you for being here. Now what’s on your mind? DM Uncle Gary @ SoCalMag / BlueSky / Instagram / FaceBook / YouTube / TikTok / Threads / LinkedIn